is to feel needed. This can prove quite precarious for you as others, especially your parents, can come to see you for what you can do rather than for what you are. Or, one of your parents was not there for you physically or emotionally.
From the word go, your need for external approval put you in a situation where your own emotional nature was not taken into consideration. As a child, were not acknowledged as one, and neither perhaps is the child in you now. Because your emotional interior was not nurtured, and was possibly even abused, you grew up with only a poor idea of how to cherish and value it.
Such emotional denial couldcause you to be quite a survivor in the harsh outside world as a kind of substitute for a feeling of inner support. This could turn into a rather grim and lonely alternative, although your cool efficiency would possibly conceal this fact. Or again, you may look for the nurturing parent that you never had in a partner.
Conversely you could be a parent to your partner, and others too, as you deftly manage material affairs but this would eventually only serve to isolate you further. What you have to set about doing with your innately industrious nature is to look for, and find, that sad child inside of you, and possibly with professional therapeutic help, look after it yourself. In becoming the parent of your own inner child in this way, you then develop into an extraordinarily balanced and capable human being. |
