Perhaps a bit too much so, because you can find yourself consumed by desire - and then mistake this for love. You then wind up either trying to satisfy your emotional hunger with sexual indulgence, which doesn't bring you love, or else you get yourself into a tight relationship where each of you is held hostage by your fearful needs. You might even attempt to step out of the intimacy stakes altogether, which takes some doing.
What you really have to do is return to first principles: you love deeply because at a deep level you want love to transform you. This presupposes that do not know what love is until it has transformed you and your idea of it. In this way - and in this way only - you can discover the profound commitment that you crave. |
